Your Emotions Are Not Random
The mood you are in right now is not an accident. And I don’t just mean that it depends on what happened to you earlier—this explanation is too simple and often misleading.
Because people react to the same event differently. As Clint Eastwood said, “We boil at different degrees.” What makes one person angry might make another cry.

Dating is easy when you’re 20. Hormones do all the heavy lifting, and your rational mind doesn’t even get involved.

There’s a Russian saying: Любовь зла – полюбишь и козла. Love is cruel; it makes you fall for the jerk.

If you are lucky to be older than 40, you know that it is. If you don’t, you may be in the middle of it.

Different people live their crisis differently: some change careers, some – divorce their long-time spouses, some get into love affairs, some – drop everything and start from the beginning, some – buy a Lamborghini. Whatever are the stories – emotional turbulence unites them all..

There are usually three main stages in a human’s life, each accompanied by rituals: 1. birth, 2. coming of age (into the reproductive period), and 3. leaving the reproductive period. Each stage marks a significant turning point in life. Our ancestors understood how critical it was for these transitions to go smoothly and how a person’s life depended on a good passage through these stages…

I want to talk about a phenomenon I've been hearing a lot about lately: how middle-aged women become invisible to society. There are a lot of conflicting feelings and confusion around the topic. Reflecting on it for myself, and talking to clients and girlfriends, I’ve come to the conclusion that, as a society, we are on the verge of creating a new age bracket for women. There is a desperate need for it, but no previous experience to rely on.

When people are in despair and looking for a last hope, they often see hypnosis as one of the tools. To many, hypnosis has a similar reputation to psychic readings, astrology, or shamanism: it sounds interesting but cannot be serious... yet, who knows, maybe there is something to it.

I have been studying hypnosis for about 10 years. During this time, I have defended my dissertation, published scientific articles, and presented at conferences on the topic of hypnosis and its effects on perception. Here is what I want to say, regardless of any specific events:

Hypnosis typically involves two people: a hypnotist (the one who hypnotizes) and a hypnotee (the one who gets hypnotized). This is the classic dynamic in hypnosis, where control is ceded to someone else, and commands are given by another person. However, self-hypnosis also exists.